An
acquaintance of mine just found out she is pregnant with baby number 4! I'm happy for her and wish her the best, but it seems like she is getting some flack from her and her husband's family and friends! That has really become an irritation for me! I hear that each time I get pregnant and it is SO annoying!
I'm so sick of listening to random opinions flying out of people's mouths concerning pregnancy and children. A) Its not your place to tell someone how many kids you think they should have, B) its just plain rude and inconsiderate to
not wish them well, but instead chastise them for having a child! Maybe you don't consider children a blessing? Good. Don't have any of your own! Maybe you think they have too much on their plate? Trials build character and ability, which these naysayers must be lacking or they wouldn't share their opinion so readily.
Some people find raising children to be a wonderful kind of life. No one said it should be or would be easy. No one asked you to donate or pitch in to help raise a large family, and if that is the basis for the criticism (i.e. having a large family that is dependent on welfare), I do agree, but most often that is NOT the case. If you are bothered by children in public place, don't go there! Find other times to do your errands or dine. Children keep this county, and our economy, going!
It is a fact that U.S. has fallen below the replacement birth-rate (the rate at which our future generation will replace our currently mature workforce), much like most of Europe, Japan and China, and will see a
major workforce shortage in the next 2 generations and will not be able to support its aging population (that's you, baby boomers!) I personally think that this will allow us to eventually get our federal finances back in line and rediscover our values as a nation, but I could be wrong. In either case, the people of child-bearing age who don't want to have children feel that they are doing the world a favor by
not having kids, and I feel that I am by having them!
I won't make apologies for wanting or having a big family. I take care of my children, teach them to be upstanding citizens of sound judgement and compassion. I take pride in my job, and this is the one I am best suited for! You should be thanking me for making the world a better place.
Am I done? No. I'm not positive we'll have more kids, but I wouldn't mind if we did! Am I tired? Sure, but its a good tired, one that comes with a job well done, and I'm not about to quit half-way thru!
Finally, to all the critics out there who ask pregnant women "Don't you know what causes that?", as a woman with 9 children once said " Yeah, we do, and we're darn good at it!"